Compassionate Care Did you enjoy this article? Sign up to be notified when a new one gets published. Let Me Know! 4 Comments Mary, MD on April 27, 2015 at 9:21 pm You are right. Sometimes I think if I redirected the energy I put into resentment and frustration into really being present, I wouldn’t be so exhausted at the end of the day. Seems like it would take more time, but it probably doesn’t…any suggestions for how to be more present? Iris Grimm on April 28, 2015 at 3:16 pm Resentment and frustration are big energy drainers and poison to your productivity and job / life satisfaction. Being present doesn’t take more time, it just takes greater awareness. The more you pay attention to it, the more you will create it and the easier it will get over time. Here is a suggestion to try out: 1 – In the morning set the intention to be more mindful throughout the day. Being mindful / being present just means that you are with your attention in the present. You are not thinking about your frustrations, problems, worries or resentments, but you are present with your mind and heart in the situation where you have power. 2 – When you notice a thought of resentment or frustration – ask yourself, “what can I do right now to resolve this frustrating situation?” If there is something you can do in this moment and you have the time, do it now and then let the thought go. If you cannot do anything right now about it, let the thought go and focus on the situation where you have power, such as being with your patient. You may do this exercise a few dozen times a day and as soon as you notice that you are frustrated / feel resentment, ask yourself the question and either do something about it or let it go. It is possible to let go and resolve the majority (if not all) of your frustrations and complaints so that you have the mental space to enjoy the present. And once you do that, you will enjoy your job more and your patients will benefit from your joyful energy and your presence. And at the end of the day, you have more energy for yourself and to be with your family. It all starts with letting go – 1 thought of frustration at a time. If I can support you with that, please let me know. Mary, MD on April 28, 2015 at 10:27 pm Thank you – seems it’s about letting go of things I can’t control. As long as I am holding fast to these things, they will control me. I will give this a try. Iris Grimm on April 29, 2015 at 9:26 am So true. Let go of the things you can’t control. And when you have moments where you fall back in the habit of being consumed by those thoughts, don’t criticize yourself for that; just let the thoughts go and move on. With practice and kindness towards yourself, it will get easier and more consistent. Much success and joy!